"Children need their parents’ stable union." - Catechism of the Catholic Church
Do we take the high divorce rate for granted? Are we at the point now where we are the proverbial frog who slowly boiled himself to death? Why has divorce become so mainstream, so acceptable and what are its effects? You hear Hollywood stars (who are role models for many whether we want to admit it or not) say things like, "We are still best friends and we are going to co-parent our kids." OK.... soooo you went from raising your kids together, with some degree of fullness and unity, to a full-on divorce (a full break, a full separation) and think little Johnny will be "just fine" because "kids are resilient"? That's the bad news. Here's the good news: healing is possible. God can always bring good out of evil, but our hearts have to allow Him to work in us and through us, especially for our children. This is why the work of Dr. Fitzgibbons, "Children of Divorce Healing", is so needed.
Now, not every marriage is a covenant under God (1625 CCC). For instance, if a man and a woman were to marry and one spouse hid something major from the other spouse (such as they were already married to someone else!) then that marriage would probably not be a covenant under God. In this case, they were probably never married and a divorce would probably be in order. I say "probably" so many times because I know canon lawyers who have told me that annulment cases are never black and white. - "With God all things are possible" - MT 19:26.
The mission of "Children of Divorce Healing" is to help youth by educating parents about the common symptoms and causes of emotional, cognitive and behavioral conflicts in this developmental phase and by offering effective approaches for addressing such conflicts. Through a combination of online resources, educational programs and publications, they offer an approach to help parents and children that incorporates current psychological science, positive psychology and virtues in the process of healing. Go to Children of Divorce Healing to learn more and feel free to contact Dr. Fitzgibbons to learn more. Healing is possible!!
"Dr. Rick Fitzgibbons is the director of the Institute for Marital Healing outside Philadelphia and has worked with several thousand couples over the past 30 years. Trained in psychiatry at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania and the Philadelphia Child Guidance Center, he participated in cognitive therapy research with Aaron T. Beck. In 1986 he wrote a seminal paper on the psychotherapeutic uses of forgiveness in the treatment of excessive anger and in 2000 coauthored Helping Clients Forgive: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope with Dr. Robert D. Enright, University of Wisconsin, Madison, for American Psychological Association Books. APA Books also offers a DVD on forgiveness by him and Dr. Enright."